for monitoring non-custodial parents in divorce or child custody - How a better father to be ...

User-submitted article being a non-custodial parent usually means that you, your children on weekends, holidays and vacation a year or two. ... .No matter how long or little, it is up to you to spend like it with your child or children. ... .Some fathers love their children very much, but do not know what to do when they are with them. ... .Of course, child benefits, child care and equal rights in custody, the alienation of help non-custodial parent of the child, but there is light at the end of the tunnel.Here a useful guide. To help, a better father, in spite of your divorce or custody order.Difficulty .for a child. .ChallengingInstructions1 Be a man of integrity, honesty and commitment to your children.At end of the day that deal. You? ... .They are different at home and at work? ... .Your children will not tell you. ... .Will you promise them ice cream and not give away? ... .Did you say that you do too little Suzy consideration, and not to show? ... .Expect your children to be honest with you if you do not keep your promises? .. When it comes to your children, it does not matter how beautiful you in public, that's what happened at home, where you only see numbers! ... .Here is your metal is tested. ... .If you say something, it means, dass .. .If you promise something, do it. ... .If you say you love your children, show by your actions and sense of obligation to them. ... .If you need to be there. ... .If Suzy has a concert, and you said you were going to be, you should be better. ... .It does not matter whether the custodial parent, the President or the King of Morocco is there, all that matters to your son or daughter YOU.Make commitment to "the. Man up" and show them your .integrity and honesty. .TWO devotion of your thinking and acting! ..2 You are the only one that really impress, the values of self-esteem in your child's mind and being. ... .If they know how much you appreciate them, they will feel that their existence of greater value and the value of a child who is ignored and downplayed his parents.More often the custodial parent is in the trap. Of. .see your child as a money machine to generate through the institution called "Child Support." .. .The child is given too often as a lever for the custodial parent, what they want from you or, worse, that the child is of the peacemaker and problem solver between two factions Waring - you and the child care parents .. .This "value" is no more. .detrimental to the child's psyche and behavior. ... .The child is a currency exchange and a component that is used in a struggle.Be more power for the good of your mental health and well being of your child. ... .If the values are not not as time with your son or daughter than to be vindictive or an instrument revengeful.3 communicate as a family. ... .You, your child or children, and if you have remarried, your wife. ... .Keep no secrets, nothing to hide from your children. ... .Answer the difficult questions and show your love for her and her stepmother as a family, not as two separate fractions of you.One best times of the family, almost every family has an option, it is. "Meal times. ... .Nothing is better than talking all the family around the table. ... .Let children talk about what they want to hear, and. ... .Looking for a genuine interest in them, their lives and their thoughts. ... .When you click on "Kick It Up a notch, so wish dinner with your kids! ... .It need not be complicated ... ... " .Boboli "pizza dough, sauce, grated cheese toppings and what their children. ... .Get the drift? ... .It is their time with you, why they can not decide what to put on the pizza? ..4 Father.Create up as a personal mission statement. ... .Determine what your purpose in life, and what is your mission with your children? ... .Go further than to say: "I will be the best father." How are you there? ... .When are you going? ... .What methods can you prove your search for better education of children? ..5 There are very few wins more respect than admit error or wrongdoing with your children. ... .Most importantly, it shows them that you are "genuine.. You have errors ... ... .You are a man. ... .You will feel your respect for them as people, not products. ... .You also learn that he is allowed to make mistakes, but pay with apology.6Don t 'think we should "masculine", like John Wayne or Clint Eastwood.Show your page, love your children. ... .Smile, laugh, say something, you have a child, the bothers the hell out of you. ... .But here she is up as a person, not a cold, the father life they are not hardened to view on demand or crying.7Punishment. ... .Do not punish in anger, but ask before you puff out "Cuz I Said So" online ", how can I help you learn from this?" As painful as it may be, they know that. Any action. .Sequence (some are good, some bad). .. Discuss the problem with them. ... .Ask them what would be fair not to give up as a consequence of their actions not punishment.8Lastly, your children for life. ... .Having grown up with them. ... .Share experiences, if no other option than a phone call often. ... .They are, by nature, desire to work with those who respect the love and invest in them. ... .Guard is not eternal. ... .To optimize your time with them to their advantage? ...